DIVORCE: It takes two to tango…
Lets be honest, every married person has at some point considered divorce. It is the greatest threat to marriage. Divorce doesn’t happen overnight. It is a carefully planned project by the enemy based on John 10:10. If he is not stealing wealth, joy and fruitfulness from the marriage, he is destroying what has been granted with the ultimate agenda of killing it. The thought of divorce visits or has visited every married person at some point. Its a never-ending assignment of the evil one so don’t feel ashamed when it crosses your mind. Most of the times the reasons are valid but should we yield?
If ever you have regretted being married to your husband or wife, whatever the reason was, that was the beginning of the project for divorce. The fact is that if he/she was the wrong person yet you carried on to vow proves that the God who makes all things happen allowed it. When you get married, you vow before God and man to keep it together and only be seperated by death. Choosing to break the marriage (divorce) means breaking the vow and betraying not only your partner but God who sealed the vows and declared, “let no man put asunder” (Mark 10:9).
As husband and wife, you are a team under instruction and answerable to whom you belong – God the author of marriage. It takes two to tango, it takes two to make a mess and it takes two to clean it up. God’s WORD is a two-edged SWORD. When as an individual, you pass judgement for divorce as if you put yourself in that marriage, as if you assigned yourself to it, as if you are the director of your own paths…you assume godship over your life, becoming your own god in the process activating the wrath of God upon your own self in ignorance!
Now in the army, team spirit is key and solidarity matters. The whole team gets punished for the sins of one. In marriage you become one after you vow. God joins you together so that you work as a team. As a team the WORD of God is in agreement with you and that SWORD of the spirit is being held by both of you at the handle, dashing the enemy in pieces together, spotting him afar off, comanding him to order etc. (Ephesians 6:17)
However when one becomes angry, yields to the persuasion of divorce, they take their hand off the SWORD. The SWORD automatically positions itself in the middle because it takes two to tango. You both invoke the power of a two-edged SWORD, one side sharpens you and one side goes for your partner, one suffers for wanting divorce and the other for not wanting it…blame games don’ t work because for whatever is wrong, quitting was not the solution, you vowed to be a team till death! Both of you are to blame for your current situation. This means there is nolonger teamspirit. Divorce/Quitting is judgement to break the union whose place is God and not man. For this reason wrath that is God’s is assumed by man to his destruction as it activates vengeance by God himself (Romans 12:19).
Failure to respond to the sharpening and persisting in divorce mode, means God allows it but doesn’t bless it. At this point, the ears become shut, the enemy provides scriptural backup to support an ungodly decision. The word becomes compromised and all others involved, children, extended family suffer as a result of that selfish decision. Would it not be better that for faith in God, one sticks it out in compassion for others…then God who sees that selflessness is moved to intervene and correct what is wrong? Divorce is a disgrace to God. Its an agenda of the enemy, as it opposes the very thing God stands for and used to illustrate his love for the Church. Divorce laughs at God, its a mockery of his love for the church. If God is allknowing and all powerful, can he fail to make marriage workout for your good? Your answer to this determines whether you fall for the divorce trap or not!
falling is not the problem, failing to riseUP is….