DIVORCE: It takes two to tango…
Lets be honest, every married person has at some point considered divorce. It is the greatest threat to marriage. Marriage is a beautiful union between man and woman sealed by vows which are witnessed before the God of gods and the author of love. It was he that instituted marraige as a mirror of his love for mankind. This makes marriage a work of salvation. How one carries/handles their marriage is a direct show of their walk of salvation and what it means to them. Marriage honours God and so divorce mocks him. That is why He declares, “I hate divorce…” (Malachi 2:16). Divorce means breaking the vow made in front of God, destroying what was being built for the glory of God and refusing to suffer for the cross.
Now, divorce doesn’t happen overnight. It is a carefully planned project by the enemy based on John 10:10. If he is not stealing wealth, joy and fruitfulness from the marriage, he is destroying what has been granted with the ultimate agenda of killing it. The thought of divorce (quitting) visits or has visited every married person at some point. Its a never-ending assignment of the evil one so don’t feel ashamed when it crosses your mind. Most of the times the reasons are valid but should we yield?
If ever you have regretted being married to your husband or wife, whatever the reason was, that was the beginning of the project for divorce. The fact is that if he/she was the wrong person yet you carried on to vow proves that the God who makes all things happen allowed it. When you get married, you vow before God and man to keep it together and only be seperated by death. Choosing to break the marriage (divorce) means breaking the vow and betraying not only your partner but God who sealed the vows and declared, “let no man put asunder” (Mark 10:9).
A popular divorce scripture (Mat 5:31 — Mat 5:32) says,
“It was also said, Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Sadly this scripture is often grossly misinterpreted and misunderstood. I have heard people and even preachers contend that divorce is actually allowed in the case of sexual inmorality. A closer look at that passage indicates otherwise. Jesus clearly states that divorce leads to adultery and adultery opposes the commandment of God. It was only in the case of sexual immorality that the said husband was not the express cause of her adultery! In simple terms, a man that divorces a woman causes her to be an adulteress. However if the woman was already an adulteress, the man is nolonger the cause of her sin. This does not mean he should divorce her. Otherwise it means God is saying hop from one marriage to the next in the face of trial.
Notwithstanding the long and short of the matter as attested to in Mark 10:2-12 and Luke 16:18 and in the words of Jesus the Lord himself is that divorce leads to adultery for both the man and the woman. If at all immorality was good ground for divorce, then does it mean God permits adultery- the end game of divorce? No! God is a God of order and that interpretation has been pushed by men and women seeking to make a way for their lustful and sinful acts. Couples should rather be concerned with examining the root cause of their issues and fixing the cracks in their marriage with the help of he who instituted it. God hates divorce and no scripture can justify what he already hates. He is a God of order and the author of love and forgiveness. It is in marriage that one gets to sharpen their walk in Christ.
As husband and wife, you are a team under instruction and answerable to whom you belong – God the author of marriage. It takes two to tango, it takes two to make a mess and it takes two to clean it up. God’s WORD is a two-edged SWORD infact sharper than it. When as an individual, you pass judgement for divorce as if you put yourself in that marriage, as if you assigned yourself to it, as if you are the director of your own paths…you assume godship over your life, becoming your own god in the process activating the wrath of God upon your own self in ignorance!
Now in the army, team spirit is key and solidarity matters. The whole team gets punished for the sins of one. In marriage you become one after you vow. God joins you together so that you work as a team. As a team the WORD of God is in agreement with you and that SWORD of the spirit is being held by both of you at the handle, dashing the enemy in pieces together, spotting him afar off, comanding him to order etc. (Ephesians 6:17)
However when one becomes angry, yields to the persuasion of divorce, they take their hand off the SWORD. The SWORD automatically positions itself in the middle because it takes two to tango. You both invoke the power of a two-edged SWORD, one side sharpens you and one side goes for your partner, one suffers for wanting divorce and the other for not wanting it…blame games don’ t work because for whatever is wrong, quitting was not the solution, you vowed to be a team till death! Both of you are to blame for your current situation. This means there is nolonger teamspirit. Divorce/Quitting is judgement to break the union whose place is God and not man. For this reason wrath that is God’s is assumed by man to his destruction as it activates vengeance by God himself (Romans 12:19).
Failure to respond to the sharpening and persisting in divorce mode, means God allows it but doesn’t bless it. At this point, the ears become shut, the enemy provides pervetted scriptural backup to support an ungodly decision. The word becomes compromised and all others involved, children, extended family suffer as a result of that selfish decision. Would it not be better that for faith in God, one sticks it out in compassion for others…then God who sees that selflessness is moved to intervene and correct what is wrong? Divorce is a disgrace to God. Its an agenda of the enemy, as it opposes the very thing God stands for and used to illustrate his love for the Church. Divorce laughs at God, its a mockery of his love for the church. If God is allknowing and all powerful, can he fail to make marriage workout for your good? Your answer to this determines whether you fall for the divorce trap or not!
falling is not the problem, failing to riseUP is….