Return Soldier: How to Surrender the War Part 2- Surrender Dynamics

Greetings Conquerors!

In Part 1 we looked at motives in the journey of soul searching and discovered that a motiveless inquiry is as equally bad as a negative motive. Moreover having a good motive without knowledge of who to ask is just as bad, for nothing will come out of it. However if one decides to ask questions, there is an element of accepting that they have personally failed and do not know the answers to their challenges. If they knew them, they would not be seeking answers but instead applying them. Seeking answers makes one vulnerable to the object of their inquiry. Clearly, there is an element of spoken (full surrender) or unspoken surrender (partial surrender). Today we want to look at some surrender dynamics as taught in the word of God. Before we do so, it is important to first establish why we experience conflict internally in the first place. As human beings we exist and operate on 3 levels which must be insync if things are to work. Genesis 1:7 reads, “And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul

Body (Man of Dust)

The body or flesh is the visible part of our being. It is the shell that we see. We all know the Adam story- this part is made of earth and belongs to this world . This part answers to this world and what happens in it. It feeds on the earth (foods come from the earth).

Spirit (Breath of Life)

This is the God part of our existence. The antenna that connects us to our creator. This is also a body living in us and it feeds on the bread of life being originated from God himself and of God. It is the light in us being of the light of life.

Soul (Living Soul)

Lastly is the soul which comes into existence when the spirit and the body come together. The soul is what seperates one individual from the next. The internal uniqueness of each human being. The soul is the decision centre made up of the will, the mind and the emotions. The soul being caught in between spirit and flesh feeds from either of them for good or bad, life or death. As mentioned earlier the tripatite (3) part being must be in unity to avoid conflict. ALL 3 cannot self exist and need each other at every point to bring positive results in both the earthly and spiritual experiences. The success or failure in the spiritual experience then determines the success or failure in the physical experience.

  • The body needs the soul and the spirit.
  • The soul needs the spirit and the body.
  • The spirit needs the body and the soul.

Now from the above, if the soul feeds from both the body and the spirit at the same time, there will be conflict. These 2 entities do not see eye to eye and want different things. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish(Galatians 5:17). Since the body is earthly and experiences earthly lusts, wants or pleasures, to fulfill these it puts pressure on the soul or persuades it to make decisions that will satisfy these. Unfortunately, the Soul is under instruction to take instruction from the spirit-the God part. The soul knows the rules and the consequences of disobedience on both itself and then the house (body) to which it is assigned. This is a spiritual principle and even if one is not a believer in God, the soul itself believes and knows where it came from. Unfortunately, the spirit does not feed itself. The spirit is a visitor in this world and It relies on the soul making the right decisions and moves to feed it with the Word of God- its only food. If the soul does not look for food for the spirit, the spirit will become sick (malnourished) and fail to feed the soul back to equip it with the right decisions. This will give the body and upper hand (naturally as the landlord) and bring trouble to the entire being. The soul fails when it decides by its own will to choose the body and resist or ignore the spirit. This lack of divine order and agreement sows discord amongst the 3 entities and is the root to all the problems we find ourselves in as human beings. To read more about this click here.

Surrender Dynamics

Since problems are a result of conflict in the tripatite being, surrender is when the body and the soul both yield to the spirit (God part). However an empty, hungry and weak spirit will not do anything. It is not that the spirit is dull. The spirit being the God part actually knows everything and is fully equipped with all of God (Divine Knowledge). However in the physical world, the spirit must also submit to the laws therein so it waits for the Soul to exercise free will by choosing to feed it and then submit to it. This becomes the awakening of the Spiritman! There has to be absolute order and organisation for this system to work. The soul must acquire food for the spirit while the body waits for instructions that only come via this route. So, the decision centre has to take its part 1st and perform its roles with dilligence. The first major decision a soul must make is to surrender to God. He then begins to build up one’s life by doing new things and restoring peace. Thus, in the art of surrender one must understand these 3 dynamics (i have added a few supporting scriptures for each dynamic)

1. Organize your spiritual relationships- Spirit (Mathew 22:37-38;Isaiah 45:5; Isaiah 48:17; Joshua 1:8; Proverbs 18:14; Phillipians 2:13)

2. Organize yourself within yourself -Soul (Proverbs 4:23; Matthew 12:34; James 1:26; Proverbs 23:7)

3. Organize your earthly relationships- Body (Galatians 5:13-26; I Corinthians 13:1-13; Colossian 3:5-16; Proverbs 18:21)

One cannot surrender unless they submit and trust the one to whom they are giving up to. In anything we do in life, submitting to God entails humbling ourselves before him and acknowledging his Lordship over our lives. Accepting his superiority means emptying ourselves of all the knowledge we think we have on life and starting afresh to get the truth from him. This means inquiring from him, understanding that he knows, believing his side of the story and trusting him to create a better place for us compared to the one we find ourselves in. Its like formatting a corrupt harddrive in the world of ICT and rebooting. God is still in the business of creating, he is the founder of wisdom, he is pre-eminent, omniscient and omnipotent. By him all things consists and in him we move and have our being. Without him, we are absolutely nothing and can do absolutely nothing too. This ugly situation we find ouselves in that we dont like- we have played a part in it thus far. We may not have originated it especially when we are born in it. However when we come to the age of making decisions, there is something we can do about everything we have gone through to get the progress we seek. As we submit to God and open our hearts to his wisdom, we will also find out that God equipped us for those misfortunes and trusted us to go through them having known the plan of the evil one before hand!In conclusion therefore, the soul is the one that was given the law and rules governing it’s existence on the earth in the body via the spirit. The spirit is equipped with divine knowledge but cannot override the soul in the earth. The body is made to fit into this world but its activities must be governed by the soul as it submits to the spirit. The soul is the one to whom blessings and curses have been promised as its concerns its choices. Therefore the soul must take up the lead, give the button to the spirit who in turn will riseup with fire to consume the lusts of the flesh and fulfill the kingdom mandate via the soul. When the soul is obedient (life), it puts to sleep the works of the flesh in choosing life (spirit/word) against death (body). When it operates in disobedience (death), the flesh is awakened i.e left to its means and causes problems for the human being (death cycles). In other words, the body obeys the soul which obeys the spirit. However, if the spirit is empty (unfed), it cannot guide the soul and the body takes over leading to failure.

I trust that this post has been helpful in understanding the source of our problems and art of surrender.

Join me in Part 3 as we conclude the series dedicated to all ‘Return Soldiers’ by taking a look at the positive efforts we can put to bring our lives back on track.

Till then,

Ester H.riseUPconqueror!!!!!

Falling is not the problem, failing to riseUP is!!!!

Return Soldier: How to Surrender the War Part 1- Motives

This post is dedicated to all the wounded soldiers out there. The people that have been to hell and back and still can’t understand what the hell is wrong with their lives. The people that have done all they know to do to solve their problems yet things got worse and worse to their despair. They have gone up and down to find answers and got none, journeyed far and wide in the spirit and still found themselves stuck. Yeah i’m talking to those that have joined one religious movement or other, hoped from church to church, maybe even started their own church- Yet things got worse if they didn’t stay the same! Welcome to this post my return soldiers!

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People go to war for all kinds of reasons but always at the core- it is to defend territory under threat of attack/seizure or to take back territory possessed by the enemy. As humans we are spirit beings living a physical life in a physical world. In the journeys of the spirit being i.e the innerman, there are wars fought too for the same reasons. These spiritual wars take place in what are called battles of the mind. Self- introspection, self-inquiry or soul-searching are some of the terms that can be used to describe these wars and battles therein. But why is it that one can put so much effort to get answers and direction but get nothing in return? Why does life have to be so complicated? In some cases people seek and talk to God to the extent that they feel his presence yet in the natural world nothing seems to make sense. This problem affects men of cloth as much as it does an ordinary person on the street. Infact it is the sole reason why some people will never come to church or open their hearts to the ‘church thing’. Yet the means to a place of fulfillment and wisdom is one. Well the answer to this puzzle is simple and yet complicated. In life the wrong effort will never bring back home the right results. Add to that- the wrong motive! It is much like drinking beer and waking up with the same old problems and no solutions. Why? getting drunk will not address the issue ( wrong motive) and the beer is just a drink (wrong effort). So are all the other things people do to try and feel better. Religion amongst other copying mechanisms has much been used as a beer. Yes! That is what most people have done much to their disappointment and failure. In the war, if one doesn’t hit the target they will soon become the victim of the target. The target, who is the opposing force is also out to complete a mission. Dog eat dog! Survival of the fittest! Are you conditioned to take the hit and riseUP like a conqueror?

In my years of counselling, one thing i have found in common with people who come to seek answers is that they sought answers already but didn’t get the ‘right ones’ or at least validation for their opinions. Ofcourse their situation kept getting worse. Then again i observe that they did not get the right answers because they took off with the wrong motive, obviously that led them into the wrong efforts and wasted time. Sometimes people seek a listening ear and thats it! They don’t want to hear anything from you except that you have given them your time and they have emptied their baggage on you. Sad thing about baggage is that it has relatives and even friends and connections in high places. They know where you stay and how to get in your space again as a gang. Baggage also knows and understands where it belongs and specifically that emptying it out of the bin isn’t cleaning the bin or plucking the roots . Sooner or later the roots will shoot up and they will call for friends, brothers and cousins (rot multiplies). They will definately fill up that rotten bin that knows no actual cleaning or maintance and the state of that house (you) will be worse. So what then is the right motive?

Right Motive

When life hits a wrong foot way too long and nothing seems to make sense, its always time to ask questions. There must always be a reason why questions are asked so that one can get clear direction afterwards. Before you ask the questions, you must have a clear picture of why you are asking and who you are going to ask. It could be a self -introspection or a chat with a friend or even professional help with a counsellor.

Some of the most common Reasons for asking questions:

  • …because everything is just wrong
  • …need to understand
  • …answers to problems
  • …nothing is working
  • …things don’t make sense
  • …need a listening ear
  • …theres no progreess
  • …Cycles of misfortune

These motives are unfortunately part of the problem. They are for people going nowhere slowly and eventually people can lose it as frustration and confusion threaten their own sanity. Those that pose these kinds of reasons for their inquiry are not even prepared to know the truth. They are just cowards and usually they look for someone or something to blame because they themselves must remain in control. If not to blame but obtain validation for something they already onow is not the right thing to do but feels right. The truth of the matter is if you are already lost and confused what sort of control do you still have and what answer do you think you will get from yourself? The danger of asking other people is that they are only as informed as their experiences and lives. You are on a different lane and chances are your own experiences won’t match their proposed explanations or solutions. However, with the right motive this can be a good start. Have you ever wondered why in a church full of people receiving the same teaching, you will find people marred with all kinds of setbacks and probably just a handful experiencing the benefit of those teachings. The problem is not the preaching, teaching or the word…it is the mismatch between people & their motives and the preaching. What makes asking questions without a motive and/or a good one bad is that as spirit beings having an earthly experience, our fellow beings on the opposition side are quick to respond to our confused inquiring mind with supposed answers and feelings of comfort from all the crying that so often accompanies such inquiries. We mistake it for a ‘God and Us’ event, no wonder we get unpleasantly surprised that things haven’t changed and the mountain we are trying to level is well over our heads obstructing us as usual from making the progress we so yearn for, getting worse even!

From the above we can conclude that:

  1. Continuous exposure to unanswered questions with no motive is a soul damaging exercise
  2. Knowing what one wants to achieve from the questions will help craft the right motive and shape the right efforts for positive outcomes
  3. The Source of the answers must be determined before attempting to ask.

It is undeniable that when one reaches a hard place in life, they yearn, long and wish for a time when positive energy flows and things just work. Troubles are heartbreaking and mind boggling. They steal joy and peace to a point where they threaten one’s sanity. Motives/reasons for asking questions such as those mentioned above will not bring peace or joy but infact threaten the very presence of these positive forces in one’s life. Therefore, in a quest to find answers to questions, the motives must be corrected and aligned with the desire to get freedom from bondage, obtain peace and joy and all the good things of life. There’s is a diference between a person that says, “I want to understand why i’m not married or why my mother abandoned me…why me…why is my life like this?” and one that says, ” I want to know what i can do to change my life and get better results, surely there is more to this life than what i see, i have to make it…” Although they may have the same background or unfortunate past, their motives in making inquiry set them apart. One is regressive, past focused and already being driven by negative energy while the other one is progressive, future focused and driven by positive energy and their results are going to be obviously different. May i mention that absence of a motive will result in a default motive being assumed or given by negative forces who inturn don’t waste time in offering their corresponding negative answers. Well there was a vacuum and it had to be filled! So 1) have a motive 2) make sure it’s a positive motive and finally 3) make sure the one you are asking has the answers.

Therefore, it is imperative as a Return Soldier to have a motive and not only that but make sure its the right motive. After that then comes the work of alignment with the right Efforts. Since we are now acquainted with wrong motives or absence of motive, join me in Part 2 as we examine the dynamics of surrender as the basis of right efforts which we will look at in part 3

Till then,

Ester H.


Falling is not the problem, failing to riseUP is!!!!!